Gady le I like being single :)

Valerie Oh yes I do...for most of my childhood, my mother was "unavailable"...she had 4 other kids and her own emotional issues. I found myself craving attention from men who were unavailable as well. Even though these situations hurt us, it's what is familiar to us, and what we believe love should feel like. I'm happy to say, my awareness and knowledge of this pattern is helping me to me avoid playing out that same painful scenario in current relationships.

Dreamerella I definitely believe that our past can have an influence on how we interact with our others in any kind of relationship. Growing up with a lot of insecurities and a lack of a father figure, I would seek validation for how worthy I was from men. I also seemed to be attracted to the tormented souls - like part of me wanted to save them - as if that too was some kind of validation that I was special to someone. It's important to be aware of our issues and work on them in order to find a healthy relationship.

Petal I totally relate. Also brought up by an unavailable mother, my feelings, doubts and concerns as a child never respected, always craved the attention of men, using my sexuality as an exchange currency for affection. The outcome was even worse, no man respects a woman that's easily led to bed. The nice guys that have been in love with me were always treated poorly, always ending heartbroken. I've been working on these issues in different ways and I've reached their origins, the blocks that don't allow my life to smoothly move forward. Now is the time to untie the knots and have the strength to say NO next time I'm confronted with an old pattern.

joyhenrry ( joyhenrry@yahoo.com ) hello, It is my pleasure to contact you after viewing your profile at which really interest me to have communication with you I will be very happy if you can write me through my email for easiest communication and to know everything about each other and for us to exchange pictures,here is my email (joyhenrry@yahoo.com) i will be waiting to hear from you soon. Yours Joy.

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sg2 I'd like to hear about others' definition / experience with "Nice guys"

Marie There is a very famous book called No More Mr. Nice Guy that discusses this whole issue.

Ella I actually posted a blog called do nice guys finish last. I think that you are right about the friendship thing but I agree with sg2 they have to be more forward. I do not want to date a nice guy or bad boy I want to date a guy with confidence, knows what he wants, and will think of me when I am not around. The only way to get out of the friend zone is to be a little distant. although you run the risk of losing her. She may value you as a trusting friend than a boyfriend.

Daniela P. I have to be honest and say that I'm not attracted to nice guys. They usually come off as kind of needy and I want a man who's confident and independent - a man who expresses his interest in me, knows what he wants and isn't always at my beck and call because he has a life to live. I think it can also go the other way - nice guys who became assholes fuck over nice girls who become bitches who fuck over other nice guys and the dysfunctional cycle continues...

Little Miss. What I was saying is that it sounds to me like he is chasing a woman who is indifferent to him. She is chasing another man who is indifferent to her. Are we all just nice people, chasing someone indifferent to us?

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