whimsyofemily When you care for someone it's hard. This guy is a conniving, alcoholic, emotionally abusive jerk. Wake up and smell the coffee already! Not one thing you say about this guy is positive. There is no understanding why some people are so deceitful and mean. Find a qualified therapist, work on your self-esteem issues, and gather your support network around you. He will never change for the better therefore you just need to leave him, no matter how painful it is. In the long run, the process of healing yourself will return far more than this loser ever will.

whimsyofemily The longer you are in a relationship, the harder it is to leave. It sounds like you might be in an abusive relationship. I highly suggest that you look into counseling as you seek to change your life situation (www.safeconnections.org is a great place.) While it's sad that John lost his only child in a car accident, it does not in any way justify his behavior towards you. I am sorry that you have come through this. Ask yourself what is making you stay, write down all the reasons you need to leave and tell friends and family what you are doing so that they can support you.

whimsyofemily Years ago I was woken by a phone call from a guy telling me he was breaking up with me when he knew that I had to be up early for work the next morning. I was absolutely furious. As if that wasn't bad enough, a few months ago, some 5 years after that break up, he looked me up online, discovered where I worked, called my place of employment, and asked for me to "apologize" for his behavior. He set a precedent for selfish jerk behavior that will be hard to outdo.

whimsyofemily Wait and see, it'll happen or it won't and the more you pressure her, the worse it'll be. Anyone who cared in your shoes would be concerned but sometimes everyone gets tired or irritable. I would also suggest investing in some condoms, preferably non-latex as those will be hypoallergenic. Be sure to pick up some lubricant as it has been shown to increase sexual pleasure for both parties and reduces the chance for chaffing. Good luck!

StealthSeductress HMMM...UTI? Young healthy women get UTI's from bacteria rising into the urethra. The most common way to get this type of infection is to have have rough sex and not pee afterwards. So she is a college girl and you only see her when one is willing to travel three hours. Both of you have made a stance against casual sex, but what you are doing, isn't it sex? I mean just because a and b are not connecting a and c and b and s are...I think you have had your share of flings and realize the real true depth and beauty lie in when you are able to be completely open and honest and free that is where true intimacy resides. I hope this is not your girl, but be aware, many smart seductive insecure girls are unusually manipulative and who knows if she is indulging in her dark sexual side with someone else and playing the good girl with you. And if she is not doing this then it sounds like you have an opportunity to have some fun because she may be testing your sincerity. Take her on a ride on your kinky side and stop being such a prude. Next time she starts complaining that you only want her for sex blah blah blah. Bend her over and Introduce her to Sir Kingfisher: A few good slaps on the bottom and tell the little girl to stop acting up! Tell her if she doesn't staighten up and stop questioning your devotion, then she will be grounded. A little kink and a little humor, good combo...In my humble opinion, but not for everyone.

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whimsyofemily You are very young. There is a lot of truth in to the cliche there are a lot of fish in the sea. Hold out for someone you know is into you rather than someone you're unsure of.