Valerie When I see "complicated" as a person's relationship status, I think, Oh, they must be in something they want to leave, but can't for one reason or another. It's usually a financial (they have no $ to split up, or they have a lot of $ and don't want to part with it if they leave) or familial (kids, partner's health) problem that keeps them obligated to the other person. I think they should add "Stuck" as a relationship status....that'd clear up so much!

Venus I agree Valerie. Complicated means they are feeling stuck. Time to stop procrastinating and make an actual decision so they can move on in their life. Alot of people get stuck in a rut, because of laziness, lack of money, not wanting to hurt other people etc, but the most important person is always you. If you are not happy it is time to find out why. And the question to ask is: What do you want in your life? How do I want my life to be? Other people can take care of themselves, that is their destiny and their journey. If someone is not happy in some part of their life, they need to figure out what will make them happy and then take action. ACTION is the most important. Positive affirmations are good but action is what is required. 'Complicated status' means 'I have got stuff going on right now and my life is complicated'. They need to uncomplicate their life, which is similar to throwing out old and used possessions, which are no longer necessary in your life right now. Freeing up the space, in your wardrobe and your mind, will attract more of the right energy (vibrations) and will get you what you really desire, but have been too scared to ask for previously. Love and light.x

Sooverit I don't think you need to any of these things unless you are doing them for you, you're young and it'll happen, I didn't really have any serious relationships are really start dating until I was your age. Some of us are really just late bloomers.

nadu183 yep... maybe it`s question of time....

Valerie Or...how 'bout this...While they weren't ready, we're out meeting new people. And now, a year later, when they're finally ready, we're no longer interested in them! And we find ourselves wondering what we ever saw in them in the first place...not to mention, using the same "I'm not ready to be in a relationship" excuse...

Travelling Girl That's pretty funny Valerie! I've actually had a few situations where the guy has wanted to end things and then they come back a few months later wanting to get back together and by that time the oxytocin has left my brain and reason has been restored, such that I also wonder what I saw in them in the first place!

Sooverit Hell yea!!! Seems to be the story of my dating life...but oh well, it will eventually get better.

Kathryn most of the people that told me this after 1 month were engaged with another woman!!!

Valerie Ok, so here's the update. I was 100% correct. While that LOSER was telling me he didn't want to be in a relationship, he was texting some chica from his home state...I LOVE YOU...and she was tellin' him the same thing!

Sooverit Uhm so your FWB is not only using you for sex, but he's trying to control you and he's manipulative. To answer your ?'s yes you guys should break it off now because it doesn't seem like "you" are happy with what you're getting. He is just telling you he wants to only have sex with you exclusively, too control you via sex, unfortunately you are his "sure thing" and not in a good way :(. If he makes it seem like he wants to only have sex with you then you think your special, just playing mind games with you, if he really wanted you he would make a commitment. And lastly, he probably does have someone else on the side, I mean you only know what he's telling you, I wouldn't be surprised if you aren't the only one...again you should just cut your losses and take this as a lesson learned, you deserve better.

lostforever a commitment like making it known that he's with me or like a life long commitment sort of commitment? @_@

Sooverit More like making it known that you two are officially together...

Kingfisher If I'm being perfectly honest, this doesn't sound like the healthiest of relationships. He sounds bitter and vindictive (among other things) and those two alone are a terrible combination. It seems like he's trying to play games that he isn't really all that good at (I had all these girls lined up, so you better claim me quick. Oh, wait. All those girls "fell through." Mmhmm. Riiiiiiiiight. Sure they did.) You might have a strong desire to be with him, but you should definitely be considering yourself, first. What's the point of relationship if it's not to make you happy, satisfied, and help you develop as a human being? It doesn't sound like he's doing any of these things. TL;DR He's what you want, but maybe not what you need.

Mr. Good First, figure out what you want. That is the most important thing. Then you can figure out if the two of you are on the same page. Flirting in front of you, telling you about all the girls already lined up, speaking about ex girlfriends negatively all sound like a bad start. You have your emotions already involved so this one is not easy. You have to think with your head and heart. You should look into the book, "How Can I Find A Good Man: 50 Things to Always Remember About Relationships, Dating, and Intimacy."