Valerie When I see "complicated" as a person's relationship status, I think, Oh, they must be in something they want to leave, but can't for one reason or another. It's usually a financial (they have no $ to split up, or they have a lot of $ and don't want to part with it if they leave) or familial (kids, partner's health) problem that keeps them obligated to the other person. I think they should add "Stuck" as a relationship status....that'd clear up so much!

Venus I agree Valerie. Complicated means they are feeling stuck. Time to stop procrastinating and make an actual decision so they can move on in their life. Alot of people get stuck in a rut, because of laziness, lack of money, not wanting to hurt other people etc, but the most important person is always you. If you are not happy it is time to find out why. And the question to ask is: What do you want in your life? How do I want my life to be? Other people can take care of themselves, that is their destiny and their journey. If someone is not happy in some part of their life, they need to figure out what will make them happy and then take action. ACTION is the most important. Positive affirmations are good but action is what is required. 'Complicated status' means 'I have got stuff going on right now and my life is complicated'. They need to uncomplicate their life, which is similar to throwing out old and used possessions, which are no longer necessary in your life right now. Freeing up the space, in your wardrobe and your mind, will attract more of the right energy (vibrations) and will get you what you really desire, but have been too scared to ask for previously. Love and light.x

Petal Hi, Kathryn.Thank you for your comment. I don't consider being in a relationship with him because we don't share anything besides the bed. We basically have sex and sleep together. Sometimes go out for breakfast... Last time I tried to break up, he seemed heart-broken, but all he said was that he likes to be with me and make love to me. As far as i get it, his girlfriend is very conventional and I'm a little more... well... unconventional in bed. Whenever I try to get something out of him, he immediately changes the subject. I actually tell him to his face that he just changed the subject and that he doesn't have to because I'm not asking him to marry me... But he avoids any kind of conversation. What I really want from him... that's a good point. I don't actually know. Sex with him is amazingly good. If I picture the scenario of him leaving his girlfriend, I'm not sure I want to have a relationship with him... He´s judgmental, critical, he's my father all over again... I'm starting to believe some people come in to our lives to show us what we should NOT have...

Kathryn I can understand ..I'm in a very similar situation..the difference is that he lives very far from me so we meet very few times and since he told me that he was not in love with me and that I m not the woman for him I decided that I do not want to know anything about his love life..we will do 2 years in january..he s so different from me he's full of imperfections! he s a very difficult man!But I feel so good with him, I discovered what is real sex and pleasure ..I think that his skin has same composition of mine! what I can suggest..that also what I'm suggesting for me ..trying at least..is to not stop to look around us..meet people..and stop the relation when you understand that you arrived at a "point of no return", when you will be too much break-up..

Petal yes, our situations are very similar! Last time I tried to break up, I really couldn't because I was not ready to let go. As to looking around, I believe that while I'm with E., all the rest that belongs to me is blocked and won't come to me. All in the Universe is scheduled to perfection, we are the ones who try to rush things before the lessons are fully taught and learned... But in January he's going to Mozambique, where he spends a couple of months (by himself), and maybe that will be my timing...

Valerie Petal, we've all been where you're at. Me, just recently, and I wish I had ended it long before it led to where it has. He avoids conversation because he's only with you for the sex, and you know that. You're trying to get approval from someone who will never give it to you. Now do the right thing, for yourself, and let go of this relationship. Who cares if it breaks his heart...do you think he cares that your heart is breaking?

Venus Hi, you have really said it all yourself, you find him JUDGMENTAL and CRITICAL, you are not even sure you would like to have a relationship with him it he was available. This speaks LOUD and CLEAR to me. You know that you are only holding onto him because of the ego, making you feel wanted. The ego is very strong. By holding onto him, you are in a false state of feeling good. Sex is very important in the relationship but if you want a whole relationship, with commitment, love and sex, you must search elsewhere because he is obviously with you just for the sexual fulfillment. If you are more unconventional in bed, you are a giver and remember givers TAKE. Giving is very spiritual and you have alot of powerful energy. He is taking. I have been in many of these situations and these men (or women) are energy zappers. They want attention. Its time for you to get what you really want in life, a relationship based on love, not just LUST. Look after yourself, not his feelings. He needs to sort his emotional issues out himself, for example, why he has attracted a girlfriend and then wants more sexual fulfillment with someone else on the side. The universe will constantly test you for the purpose of teaching lessons. If you ready for amazing beauty and love in your life, you have to be in a space to attract it and feeling needy and just being with someone for sex alone is just a diversion in your journey. I am single and am doing alot of inner work to attract the right situations and people in your life. Trust and listen to your heart. Nourish your soul. And know that you are loved by a higher source. Love and light to you. Maree x

Valerie Oh yes I do...for most of my childhood, my mother was "unavailable"...she had 4 other kids and her own emotional issues. I found myself craving attention from men who were unavailable as well. Even though these situations hurt us, it's what is familiar to us, and what we believe love should feel like. I'm happy to say, my awareness and knowledge of this pattern is helping me to me avoid playing out that same painful scenario in current relationships.

Dreamerella I definitely believe that our past can have an influence on how we interact with our others in any kind of relationship. Growing up with a lot of insecurities and a lack of a father figure, I would seek validation for how worthy I was from men. I also seemed to be attracted to the tormented souls - like part of me wanted to save them - as if that too was some kind of validation that I was special to someone. It's important to be aware of our issues and work on them in order to find a healthy relationship.

Petal I totally relate. Also brought up by an unavailable mother, my feelings, doubts and concerns as a child never respected, always craved the attention of men, using my sexuality as an exchange currency for affection. The outcome was even worse, no man respects a woman that's easily led to bed. The nice guys that have been in love with me were always treated poorly, always ending heartbroken. I've been working on these issues in different ways and I've reached their origins, the blocks that don't allow my life to smoothly move forward. Now is the time to untie the knots and have the strength to say NO next time I'm confronted with an old pattern.

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Dreamerella Kate has a relationship with someone that even she defines as "nothing serious" which leaves both Kate and Joe open to exploring other options. It's unfortunate that Kate had to witness this encounter but this kind of stuff could have been happening anyway, with other women when Kate wasn't with him. So Kate shouldn't be so hard on Drunk Danielle and Drunk Joe who lost inhibitions while under the influence. And I'd tell Kate to not be so hard on herself for developing a crush on Joe. It's really hard to be in a "nothing serious" relationship when you have an emotional connection to someone. Honestly, the best "nothing serious" relationships are with hot, stupid men that you see absolutely no romantic potential with. Perhaps that's the kind of guy Kate should look for in the future if she doesn't want anything serious?

Valerie Dreamerella...that kind of stuff, was happening. Kate cut the loser loose. She's rethinking what she wants, and more importantly deserves, from a relationship.