Rubinsh it is never healthy to become friends again with an ex, unless the relationship was not serious to begin with

Rave i agree

StealthSeductress Seriously??? He is such a manipulating player and you are buying everything he says. So many woman need validation so bad that they get sucked into a game of hide and seek. What is so wrong with you that you don't deserve a man who loves only you? What is so wrong with you that you openly admit how pathetic your being? He doesn't love you, he loves the power he has over you. Go ahead and give him an ultimatum, guys just love and ultimatum. I will bet he will say anything he needs to say to string you a long. Don't think you're the only one and will ever be the only one. Think of yourself as a snicker's bar. It tastes good and it fills you up. When you are really hungry you know it will tide you over longer than a piece of hard candy. See the other girls as a piece of hard candy. They are pretty and colorful and taste really good too, but after awhile you just want to go back to the snickers bar. Unfortunealty for you, players are like sugar addicts. and they see you nothing more that a type of variety to satisfy their taste buds. Do you want to be candy or someone's full course meal and dessert. I guess it boils down to how you see yourself. Personally, your dedication and devotion factor hints that you are more of the full course meal type of girl, so why are you settling on being someone's snack?

whimsyofemily When you care for someone it's hard. This guy is a conniving, alcoholic, emotionally abusive jerk. Wake up and smell the coffee already! Not one thing you say about this guy is positive. There is no understanding why some people are so deceitful and mean. Find a qualified therapist, work on your self-esteem issues, and gather your support network around you. He will never change for the better therefore you just need to leave him, no matter how painful it is. In the long run, the process of healing yourself will return far more than this loser ever will.