FindYourPlusOne.com Your situation is a challenging one but not because of the distance in your relationship, but because of the distance you are having with yourself. You said a few key things that deserve addressing. 1) "I'm looking for stability and I'm very upset that people want me only for sex, nobody is in love with me." Do you believe this going into a relationship or do you find this to be the circumstance after you are involved with someone? If you are allowing sex to be the determining factor of being with someone, it may be time to think about waiting to become intimate with someone. Studies have shown that it's very rare for physical relationships to not evoke emotional attachments. Even if you think you are having a casual-no-strings-attached affair, it's very possible that emotionally you are becoming involved. When the sex ends because the man has moved on, you are still connected by your heart strings. It would be smarter to wait, resist the urges and get to know someone before becoming sexually active with them. Sex can wait. It can always wait. Love is developed. To get to a point of someone loving you and falling in love with you, it takes time and energy for those emotions to develop. If you are having sex without an emotional relationship from your partner, it's hard for the sex to turn into anything more than - just sex. 2) "I think I'm not the person a man would choose for his life." This is a troubling statement because if you believe this about yourself, it is very possible, this is the message you are sending to other people. Have you taken some time to do a bit of soul searching on yourself? Now would be a good time to do a personal evaluation of your love life. Make a list of what has been right and what has went wrong. How can you avoid those situations in the future? What did you do, if anything, to contribute to them? Now is the time to make a list of what you want. There seems to be a lot of power and control given to the men you become involved with - and this power needs to be redirected back to you. Only you can decide who you let into your life and into your bed. This is a turning point for you to draw the type of man you want in your life by focusing more on the type of woman you want to be. 3) "I know that if G would decide to try a real relationship with me I would be happy, and I would do my best to make him happy even if I thought that he is the type of person that one morning he would go out to buy cigarettes and disappear." There are so many red flags in this remark, that it feels like it the annual Running of the Bulls. "G" does not need to decide to have a relationship, he has had 2 1/2 years to "try" to have a "real" relationship with you. You would not be happy living in fear or worry that a corner store run will result in your partner not coming home - or worse yet, coming home with someone else and telling you to deal with it. You deserve more. You deserve better. And the sooner you are able to come to terms that you are deserving of real love, the sooner you will see that "G" is not what is bettering you. He is, in fact, what's making you weaker and less of yourself. This is a very complicated situation and there are many emotions involved. However, you should not be spending your time waiting in the wings for someone to come around and decide they want to be with you. This is a great opportunity for you to step away from dating and sex for a while and step into yourself. Look for someone who compliments you, not completes you. Getting lost in the complications of undefined relationships is not worth your heart. You are deserving of love and a real relationship. But first, you have to find one with yourself. Good luck! May you Find Your Plus One! xo www.findyourplusone.com xo