FindYourPlusOne.com Unfortunately, men are wired differently than women. They do not tend to see some things as threatening or hurtful, the was a woman does. If your feelings were hurt, it would be better to go to your friend and ask her why she did it and let her know that it makes you uncomfortable. It is somewhat unfair to punish him for something she did. Have an honest talk with her and tell her that the way they act together concerns you. If she is a good friend, she will back off and apologize. If she is trying to be more than just friends with him, you will know, too. Actions speak louder than words. Your boyfriend may not see your friend as anything but a friend. But if you think he is acting inappropriately, you should let him know. He isn't responsible for someone posting a picture of him on Facebook. He is responsible for how he acts towards this person. If he is flirting, leading her on or making her think there is a chance to be with him - call him out on it. Instincts are a powerful indicator to guide us in the right direction. Pay more attention but try not to accuse him out of fear. Trust your instincts but make sure you have your facts straight. If you think she is a threat - she may be to you but not to him. Start with her first and see how that goes. Good luck with your Plus One!

lostforever Nope. It was something that he did, and he was flirting.

FindYourPlusOne.com Your post stated "While I was on Facebook, a friend of mine posted up a picture of her face with the face of my boyfriend photoshopped onto it. " You never quite stated that he was the one that created the picture. If he was flirting and you are uncomfortable with his behavior, you deserve better. Good luck!

Kingfisher The best thing you said was this: "cheating constitutes giving someone else what you would normally give your partner." That's so ridiculously true that I can't believe I hadn't heard it before. Thanks for the excellent answer I can respond with the next time someone poses this prickly question to me!

Dreamerella She's the dummy for liking the guy who's in a relationship and you're the asshole who should stop fucking with this sweet girl's feelings!!!! She deserves better - someone who's emotionally available and able to give her all the love and attention she deserves. Back the fuck off or MAN UP and break it off with your current girlfriend if you feel soooo freaking attracted to this other person!!! Perhaps this girl fulfills an emotional void - something you lack in your current relationship? You really need to examine what's really going on in your current relationship in order to fix it or to throw it away. Some words of wisdom from my beloved Johnny Depp: "If you love two people at the same time, choose the second. Because if you really loved the first one, you wouldn't have fallen for the second.”

Carolina First, sorry for my english... Well, man, you doesn't deserve and doesn't love your girlfriend. Probably, what you feel for the new girl is the ilussion for the new, but, if you go behind the first girl cross in your eyes is so sad for she (girlfriend)... In the other hand, the new girl obviosly doesn't know the meaning of word "respect", cause you doesn't available. There something call KARMA. Remember it!

dummy123 The "Back the fuck off" option. I'm trying to be a better guy, I've been staying away from the second girl, And things are going better with my GF....but I keep thinking about that second girl. Its crazy. We wouldn't even be a good match, and I'm such a good match with my GF. And this is super shallow but my GF is super hot, way more than this other girl, but I am so damn attracted to her , its not even a sex thing I just want to kiss and hold her, to talk to her, I just keep thinking of her and I have to keep talking myself out of trying to find reasons to drop her a line. I think it must just be the excitement, the thrill of getting to know someone new, the roller-coaster of what will she say, what will I say, what will she like, what will she hate, and the passion of wanting her and her wanting me. But the longer its been since I've seen her seems to make it easier. I'm going to continue to keep away and invest more time and attention to my GF. I hope I can get my head back to normal, my GF and I our lives/freinds/family are so entwined It would be life changing to split up, especially since I lucked into being in a relationship with her in the first place, (long story but basically I didn't intend for us to be a big relationship - originally I thought it would just be good to date someone that summer and she seemed interested - little did I know that we would have so much in common, and that she'd turn into such a fox) prior to that all the relationships I had with girls who I thought would be great for long term relationships rapidly turned into disasters. Point being that I have a gut feeling that I want to run off with this second girl, but I think all my Gut feelings in the past proved to be stupid, and in this situation in particular it would be so stupid. I'm just like all those idiot mid life crisis guys looking to find more meaning and thrill in life, through some crazy quick fix. It's getting better, more time apart = less temptation = less dummy ideas

Lewis Heidegger Romantic love is a flame that builds up and dies down, it jumps and twists and can flare up when least expected. You're not stupid or an asshole for feeling an emotion for a girl. That's what romantic love does. You're stupid and an asshole when you don't realize that the new flame isn't as special as the True Love you built over time with your girlfriend. Or your stupid and an asshole for trying to have both at the same time. It doesn't sound like you are doing either of those things. Whatever choice you make, don't look back.

Kathryn I can understand ..I'm in a very similar situation..the difference is that he lives very far from me so we meet very few times and since he told me that he was not in love with me and that I m not the woman for him I decided that I do not want to know anything about his love life..we will do 2 years in january..he s so different from me he's full of imperfections! he s a very difficult man!But I feel so good with him, I discovered what is real sex and pleasure ..I think that his skin has same composition of mine! what I can suggest..that also what I'm suggesting for me ..trying at least..is to not stop to look around us..meet people..and stop the relation when you understand that you arrived at a "point of no return", when you will be too much break-up..

Petal yes, our situations are very similar! Last time I tried to break up, I really couldn't because I was not ready to let go. As to looking around, I believe that while I'm with E., all the rest that belongs to me is blocked and won't come to me. All in the Universe is scheduled to perfection, we are the ones who try to rush things before the lessons are fully taught and learned... But in January he's going to Mozambique, where he spends a couple of months (by himself), and maybe that will be my timing...

Valerie Petal, we've all been where you're at. Me, just recently, and I wish I had ended it long before it led to where it has. He avoids conversation because he's only with you for the sex, and you know that. You're trying to get approval from someone who will never give it to you. Now do the right thing, for yourself, and let go of this relationship. Who cares if it breaks his heart...do you think he cares that your heart is breaking?

Venus Hi, you have really said it all yourself, you find him JUDGMENTAL and CRITICAL, you are not even sure you would like to have a relationship with him it he was available. This speaks LOUD and CLEAR to me. You know that you are only holding onto him because of the ego, making you feel wanted. The ego is very strong. By holding onto him, you are in a false state of feeling good. Sex is very important in the relationship but if you want a whole relationship, with commitment, love and sex, you must search elsewhere because he is obviously with you just for the sexual fulfillment. If you are more unconventional in bed, you are a giver and remember givers TAKE. Giving is very spiritual and you have alot of powerful energy. He is taking. I have been in many of these situations and these men (or women) are energy zappers. They want attention. Its time for you to get what you really want in life, a relationship based on love, not just LUST. Look after yourself, not his feelings. He needs to sort his emotional issues out himself, for example, why he has attracted a girlfriend and then wants more sexual fulfillment with someone else on the side. The universe will constantly test you for the purpose of teaching lessons. If you ready for amazing beauty and love in your life, you have to be in a space to attract it and feeling needy and just being with someone for sex alone is just a diversion in your journey. I am single and am doing alot of inner work to attract the right situations and people in your life. Trust and listen to your heart. Nourish your soul. And know that you are loved by a higher source. Love and light to you. Maree x

Petal well, finally did it! Completely stoped answering text messages and calls and I think he finnally realized that I can't have anything else to do with him. But I had to tell it to him, that I would no longer reply to any contact, and ask him to respect my decision. he still tried 4 or 5 times, but I kept my promise to myself! It was hard at first, to deal with the feeling of loss and a kind of loneliness, that's not real, because I was alone even with him in my life. But now I'm OK! ;)