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What's great about The Narcisstic

  • Morally strong

  • The Narcisstic is loyal

  • The Narcisstic is honest

  • The Narcisstic is cheerful

  • The Narcisstic avoids unnecessary conflict

What's not so great about The Narcisstic

  • Feminine

  • I don't see a future with him

  • The Narcisstic is too arrogant

  • The Narcisstic lacks focus on me

  • The Narcisstic has a weird habit

lostforever added a positive impression

10 February 2013

Morally strong

lostforever added a negative impression

07 February 2013

Feminine

lostforever on her relationship with The Narcisstic

07 February 2013

Is a gut instinct always right?

I admit, I am a pretty paranoid person, so it's hard for me to trust people. However, this paranoia comes from my gut instinct about people, and usually it's right. While I was on Facebook, a friend of mine posted up a picture of her face with the face of my boyfriend photoshopped onto it. I've told him not to talk to her because it bothers me. My initial reaction was to freak out and get pissed off.  I told him to tell her to take the picture of and never talk to her again. He said that he wasn't flirting with her, but I don't believe it. I'm not stupid. I know what he was doing, even i... Read more...
  • FindYourPlusOne.com Unfortunately, men are wired differently than women. They do not tend to see some things as threatening or hurtful, the was a woman does. If your feelings were hurt, it would be better to go to your friend and ask her why she did it and let her know that it makes you uncomfortable. It is somewhat unfair to punish him for something she did. Have an honest talk with her and tell her that the way they act together concerns you. If she is a good friend, she will back off and apologize. If she is trying to be more than just friends with him, you will know, too. Actions speak louder than words. Your boyfriend may not see your friend as anything but a friend. But if you think he is acting inappropriately, you should let him know. He isn't responsible for someone posting a picture of him on Facebook. He is responsible for how he acts towards this person. If he is flirting, leading her on or making her think there is a chance to be with him - call him out on it. Instincts are a powerful indicator to guide us in the right direction. Pay more attention but try not to accuse him out of fear. Trust your instincts but make sure you have your facts straight. If you think she is a threat - she may be to you but not to him. Start with her first and see how that goes. Good luck with your Plus One!

  • lostforever Nope. It was something that he did, and he was flirting.

  • FindYourPlusOne.com Your post stated "While I was on Facebook, a friend of mine posted up a picture of her face with the face of my boyfriend photoshopped onto it. " You never quite stated that he was the one that created the picture. If he was flirting and you are uncomfortable with his behavior, you deserve better. Good luck!

lostforever added a negative impression

04 February 2013

Sexual incompatibility

Has a weird habit

Finishes sex too quickly

We don't communicate well

Doesn't make me feel attractive

Doesn't speak my language very well

Incompatible backgrounds

I don't see a future with them

Too arrogant

Incompatible intellect (too smart)

Lack of focus on me

I don't "get" them

Doesn't make enough time for me

lostforever added a positive impression

04 February 2013

Considerate

Is in a similar stage of life to me

Educated

Loyal

Avoids unnecessary conflict

Rational

Has clear life goals

Cultured

Creative

Is considerate in bed

Cheerful

Honest

Positive

Confident

Easy-going

Attractive

Generous in bed

Makes an effort to see me often

Intelligent

Fun to be with

Spontaneous

lostforever on her relationship with The Narcisstic

22 November 2012

what does he want?

We started talking to each other in January and we hit it off, but he mentioned that he had several girls lined up and that he didn't want to get my hopes up and so I friendzoned him. When he found this out he seemed hurt by this. He then went to study abroad and when he came back all these girls that were lined up fell through and I was the only one left talking to him as a friend. He started pursuing me but I was still put off by all the girls and it took two months of persistent attention to be convinced that he may like me and I gave him a chance. When I met him I was blown awa... Read more...
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  • Sooverit Uhm so your FWB is not only using you for sex, but he's trying to control you and he's manipulative. To answer your ?'s yes you guys should break it off now because it doesn't seem like "you" are happy with what you're getting. He is just telling you he wants to only have sex with you exclusively, too control you via sex, unfortunately you are his "sure thing" and not in a good way :(. If he makes it seem like he wants to only have sex with you then you think your special, just playing mind games with you, if he really wanted you he would make a commitment. And lastly, he probably does have someone else on the side, I mean you only know what he's telling you, I wouldn't be surprised if you aren't the only one...again you should just cut your losses and take this as a lesson learned, you deserve better.

  • lostforever a commitment like making it known that he's with me or like a life long commitment sort of commitment? @_@

  • Sooverit More like making it known that you two are officially together...

  • Kingfisher If I'm being perfectly honest, this doesn't sound like the healthiest of relationships. He sounds bitter and vindictive (among other things) and those two alone are a terrible combination. It seems like he's trying to play games that he isn't really all that good at (I had all these girls lined up, so you better claim me quick. Oh, wait. All those girls "fell through." Mmhmm. Riiiiiiiiight. Sure they did.) You might have a strong desire to be with him, but you should definitely be considering yourself, first. What's the point of relationship if it's not to make you happy, satisfied, and help you develop as a human being? It doesn't sound like he's doing any of these things. TL;DR He's what you want, but maybe not what you need.

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    Mr. Good First, figure out what you want. That is the most important thing. Then you can figure out if the two of you are on the same page. Flirting in front of you, telling you about all the girls already lined up, speaking about ex girlfriends negatively all sound like a bad start. You have your emotions already involved so this one is not easy. You have to think with your head and heart. You should look into the book, "How Can I Find A Good Man: 50 Things to Always Remember About Relationships, Dating, and Intimacy."

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What's great about The Narcisstic

  • Morally strong

  • The Narcisstic is loyal

  • The Narcisstic is honest

  • The Narcisstic is cheerful

  • The Narcisstic avoids unnecessary conflict

  • The Narcisstic is rational

  • The Narcisstic is easy-going

  • The Narcisstic is positive

  • The Narcisstic is fun to be with

  • The Narcisstic is spontaneous

  • The Narcisstic is in a similar stage of life to me

  • The Narcisstic is generous in bed

  • The Narcisstic is considerate in bed

  • The Narcisstic is attractive

  • The Narcisstic is considerate

  • The Narcisstic makes an effort to see me often

  • The Narcisstic is confident

  • The Narcisstic has clear life goals

  • The Narcisstic is cultured

  • The Narcisstic is educated

  • The Narcisstic is intelligent

  • The Narcisstic is creative

What's not so great about The Narcisstic

  • Feminine

  • I don't see a future with him

  • The Narcisstic is too arrogant

  • The Narcisstic lacks focus on me

  • The Narcisstic has a weird habit

  • The Narcisstic is not sexually compatible with me

  • The Narcisstic is too smart for me

  • I don't get him

  • Our backgrounds are incompatible

  • The Narcisstic doesn't speak my language very well

  • The Narcisstic doesn't communicate well with me

  • The Narcisstic doesn't make me feel attractive

  • The Narcisstic finishes sex too quickly

  • The Narcisstic doesn't make enough time for me

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