Everyone kept saying, "Oh try a dating web site! Haven't you seen the commercials?" or "I know this or that many people met online and lived happily ever after." Ok, ok. I'm 40+ at the time, so what the heck have I got to lose, I think, except a few bucks for any fee's.
First things first I tried a free site - my advice: Don't. Every Tom DICK and Harry is on there just so scope out the scene. If you're serious, use a paid site. Ok, so that led me to the ever-so-popular eHarmony. Great, I thought, look at their commercial. These people look so happy, this must work! Pricey but I'll give it a whirl. Well, after about two weeks of seeing the same dozen guys popping up over and over on my search, I called up the customer service line and said, "What's up with this?" Seems since I'm in such a small town, not too many people in this area use this site. Well I say to them, "I just paid you guys a lot of mulah! How can we make this work?"
They proceed to tell me I need to expand my search to 100 or more miles away. Now come on! "Who in their right mind can have a productive relationship with someone 100 or more miles away?" I tell them. This just makes no sense, so after about a half an hour with this person trying to tell me to expand my search and me giving my not so fond opinion of that, we decided to part ways eHarmony and I and I got a refund.
Well now what to do? Ok, how about I try Match? I've heard that's pretty good too so I decide to give it a try. Sign up and start my search. This time I actually did happen to meet a few people and began to mail a bit online.
Guy one seemed nice and wanted to talk on the phone so after about 2 weeks of emailing I took his number and called. The call went something like this:
"Hi, hey what up?"
"Oh, nothing. You?" :
Then began an hour long talk all about what? Himself, of course. How great he was; how many women he'd dated; all kinds of stuff. I tried to fake a yawn a few time so I could hang up and finally just came out and said gee it's getting late I really need to let you go. That didn't go over too well with him and he called me a bitch and maybe a few other things and hung up. Strike two.
I wasn't about to give up and besides I'd paid my dues and had 3 months worth to use up. Along came a very nice, intelligent man with a good job and he even knew how to talk on the phone. We chatted quite a few times and after about a month decided to meet up. He was going to come and meet me from about 60 miles away here in my town for lunch. I figured lunch was safe in case he was a serial killer.
Here I am, waiting on someone I had never met nor seen and finally he arrives. And to my surprise, it seems he had forgotten to mention his disability. The fact that he had a muscular disease serious enough to require the use of crutches. Now I had really liked this person on the phone and in our mailings and I am not all about looks or petty things but this was something I thought he shouldn't have kept from me, the fact he did made me very uncomfortable and I really wanted to give him a piece of my mind. I have to say I was more bothered by him not telling me than by his disibility.
I guess overall our lunch went well and we parted ways but we were never to converse again. I think he must have known I was upset with his withholding this information from me.
Strike three- I threw in the towel on the online stuff after that but I'm still looking for my solemate I'm hoping in the non virtual world I may stumble upon someone who is good and honest and lot of fun. Wish me luck!