Dear Dr. Internet
So I've been with one girl for a few years. Everything is great (there are minor frustrations, but nothing major.. and from previous experiences I know that every relationship requires some compromise, but we're so compatible there is really very little we don't see eye to eye on). Really its a terrific relationship and everything is perfect . Except all of a sudden I find there's this other girl I've just met who I can't stop thinking about.
Here's the kicker, people tell me that this other girl is (objectively speaking) less beautiful than my GF but I am more attracted to her than anyone I've ever met, everything about her just drives me wild, and I find nothing as exciting as being around her or texting or chatting with her. We flirted casually for a month or so. This other girl knows I'm in a relationship and she (smartly) thinks we should not fool around. I (like a dummy) made a move on her and it was super exciting but its really mixing her up because she (unlike me) is a good person. (p.s. I've recently stopped being sexual with my actual GF because i feel like i'm cheating on this girl)
She's a sweetheart and while she hasn't said this directly I can tell she is not really into fooling around on the side. If I left my GF for her she'd totally be interested in a relationship with me. But if I keep messing with her it will just be taking advantage of all those sweet feelings inside her, and curdling them and her into something she's not.
Okay I'll leave her alone. She's got a lot else in her life right now anyway.
I'm such an idiot.
I'm going to stay with my current GF because we match up pretty perfectly more so than anyone else I've been with. This other girl is incredible but it would be crazy to throw away everything I've build with my GF over the years and the potential lifetime of happiness awaiting us, just because I fall for some new beauty. Besides who knows if this new girl and me would last more than a few months, we're probably not as compatible, and she's got a busy life. But I like to fantasize about taking her to the movies, meeting her parents over the holidays, moving in together, her in a wedding dress smiling and laughing. It feels so good falling in love, and new love is always the easiest, the most exciting. But everyone eventually has to do the laundry, and fight about who cleaned the dishes, and forget to call when you said you would, so the perfect shine always wears off. And if you're lucky there is still a warm wonderful love there to hold you together tight. And I've got that, so I better stop shopping around. I realize it may sound a bit like I think I'm settling.. I am not settling, I am luckier than I have any right to be, and I will never understand why such beautiful intelligent women would ever slum it so.
P.S. Also for a number of reasons I can't go into without revealing too much personal info, I think I've been getting messages from a dear friend from beyond the grave to stay with my GF
Don't be such a $$#%ING $%#^@$%#ING @%$@$#%# WITH A HEAD FULL OF &%#@!$$% #$%@$%! YOU $##$@$#ing DUMMY! Talk about selfish, you're hurting everyone involved in this, just imagine the tears of both women anytime you're even thinking of doing anything like this again! You should be quarantined from all women, but the very least you can do is get the hell away from that new girl! You'll be doing her a favour!
And if I was a ghost I'd haunt David Beckham's foot and make it kick you in the nuts!