We started talking to each other in January and we hit it off, but he mentioned that he had several girls lined up and that he didn't want to get my hopes up and so I friendzoned him. When he found this out he seemed hurt by this. He then went to study abroad and when he came back all these girls that were lined up fell through and I was the only one left talking to him as a friend. He started pursuing me but I was still put off by all the girls and it took two months of persistent attention to be convinced that he may like me and I gave him a chance. When I met him I was blown away by how nice he looked. That night we ended up engaging in some sexual activities. I then asked if he wanted to be with me and he said yes so we made it official. After that I was worried that I came off too easy so I told him that I didn't want to have sex until I was ready but he said he wouldn't be with a girl that was chaste due to being taken advantaged off in his past relationships and he forced himself on me. I wrote it off--we're in a relationship so it's okay to have sex.
In the past three months I became deeply infatuated with him and we would take turns coming to visit each other(we lived an hour apart). We kind of jumped into the long distance relationship without a stable foundation of dating. He started opening up to me more. He also started telling me some disturbing things. He would always talk about his exes in a negative light, and he told me that he was settling for me. When I became visibly upset about this, he lied to me and said that I was his first choice. I became very confused. He also let a girl flirt with him in front of me without mentioning that I was his girlfriend at all, and he actually physically hurt me. The persistent attention from before disappeared, and I was worried that he found me boring since he stopped returning my texts enthusiastically. I tried to stop caring about his unattentiveness but it just made me feel sadder and more distant. I tried to be understanding with the fact that he had some unresolved anger with his pasts. He would keep talking about his exes and comparing them to me. I started becoming very depressed and unsure of myself and my grades plummeted because I was going to see him all the time and vice versa. He blamed me for pulling him down and being too clingy. In return, I said that he was never there for me when I needed him. I was always the one crawling back to him, ready to apologize whenever we fight. We discovered that he wanted something casual and I wanted something serious. Eventually we fought that we both agreed that we needed a break--him optimistically saying that we can resolve things at the end of the semester but I said we should really just break up. However, I couldn't stop talking to him. I missed him a lot and He didn't want to leave me all alone so he kept in contact with me, saying that he didn't abandon friends. I opened up to him about how much he hurt me with his actions. We kept talking and it went back to saying that we miss each other and that we like each other. He apologized for how he treated me, saying that was the kindest, most compassionate girl and that he wanted a healthy relationship where he wouldn't hurt me anymore and he just wants me to be happy. He also says that he doesn't feel like he's settled for me anymore, and that he wants our relationship to work, but I can't tell if he's just saying that so then I won't become depressed again. He says he wants us to just enjoy being together and he refuses to talk about the future because it seems like death to him. He came to visit me and we had sex and it was amazing. and he also wants me to come visit him this break. I asked him what we were and he says that we're unofficial. What does that even mean? Is he just saying all these nice things because he realizes that I'm a nice girl and he doesn't know how to let me down? Does he like me at all? Is he just in it for the sex and this is just actually a friends with benefits? Did the relationship not work before because he was guarded and too hung up on his past? Is it going to work now?