Rachel R. There's a fine line between love and hate--but I don't have to tell you that. Sounds like you are in a very frustrating situation. I don't know that she can change her personality--some things may be too ingrained in who she is. I do know that if she can change it has to come from her wanting to. You can't force her to change. If you have a child with her, you'll always be tied to her. So she either has to change or you have to change your attitude and accept her as she is or you'll all just be miserable.

whimsyofemily I'm going to go out on a limb here and suggest that you two are not compatible. If you "feel like you've given her more chances than she deserves," that is a relationship ender in my book. What does she do that pisses you off? Are you two still pissing each other off in the same way or has that evolved over time? Why do you keep taking her back when you're in what sounds like a toxic relationship together? Only you can answer these questions. Consider contacting an attorney if she is pregnant with your child. It is always much better to know your rights, and options before you have a child bouncing around.

Mr. Good Absolutely, excellent post! This is the best approach for women.

whimsyofemily You are very young. There is a lot of truth in to the cliche there are a lot of fish in the sea. Hold out for someone you know is into you rather than someone you're unsure of.

whimsyofemily When you care for someone it's hard. This guy is a conniving, alcoholic, emotionally abusive jerk. Wake up and smell the coffee already! Not one thing you say about this guy is positive. There is no understanding why some people are so deceitful and mean. Find a qualified therapist, work on your self-esteem issues, and gather your support network around you. He will never change for the better therefore you just need to leave him, no matter how painful it is. In the long run, the process of healing yourself will return far more than this loser ever will.

Rubinsh it is never healthy to become friends again with an ex, unless the relationship was not serious to begin with

Rave i agree