Travelling Girl Try something fun like a mobile app for people in long distance relationships! http://mashable.com/2012/03/23/pair/

Jewlz4Prezident OK...from reading what you wrote, here's what it seems like to me - and if it seems incorrect, certainly disregard any of the advice I will offer... To me, you offered a detailed backstory in order to highlight how significant your strong feelings for Current GF are...that usually you feel a little unemotional about the connection, but this time you feel very strongly about the connection, which I think impacts your resolve to figure this problem out and find a solution. With that being said, in the past, you were not very emotionally involved (except 1st long-distance girl), and you mention how sometimes they might consider you their BF, but you did not consider them your GF. What this tells me, is that in this case, the tables have turned and you're feeling kind of vulnerable in a situation you are usually in control of, but at the moment you are a bit at the mercy of your GF's whims (when she wants to text/talk). That in itself is probably causing a lot of underlying discomfort with the whole situation, in addition to the historic pattern of girls quitting you cold-turkey, without explanation. That aside, here is what I would suggest: Consider first, how long this relationship will be long-distance, and if there is any plans in the future for you two to live closer. Based on that answer, assess how long you could tolerate the relationship as it is right now (only months, years?). Then, consider some options of ways to keep in touch and how often would be acceptable for you - think of what you have tried, and what hasn't worked. For example, maybe daytime phone calls are not working, but daytime texts of pictures of cute animals with captions that don't need an immediate response and a scheduled nightly "Goodnight" phone call would work. Or sending quick links for jokes and pictures on facebook would work, and I would really consider trying the App that Travelling Girl suggested. Do a little trial and error and be a little creative. After considering that, I think you should look inward. It seems like you are very sensitive to trying to make sure you are meeting HER needs, which is definitely a positive thing. However, depending on how long things will be long distance and what you figure out to be your tolerance of level of communication...I would then suggest you look within yourself and think "is she meeting MY needs?" At the moment, she is not, since you crave more affectionate and attentive behavior than she is providing. It could just be that the communication methods you are used to are just not working (calling during the day, song suggestions), or it could be that a long-distance relationship just doesn't work between you and this particular woman at this time. Overall, I do not think that you are being ridiculous at all, and that you have a very valid concern. I think you should consider how long this will be long distance, how long you could last with things this way if they don't change, and use trial and error to test a big variety of methods to see if any of them stick. If they don't, consider whether she is meeting your needs as a relationship partner. Good luck!!

Kingfisher Well. I've had two excellent responses in the first day I've been on here, with no contacts to speak of. I'm certainly impressed with this website... and I'm probably going to be an active member around here just to try and give back a little. Travelling Girl, your suggestion (while a bit saccharine sweet for my taste) is certainly a good one... and I'll probably give that a go, honestly. The only minor speedbump is figuring out how to bring it up. It even goes hand-in-hand with what Jewlz was saying (which, by the way, "feeling kind of vulnerable in a situation you are usually in control of" was spot on. I didn't even think about it that way!) and some of her advice and thoughts. It's strange to think that I'm not really considering what I'm needing, at the moment. Perhaps I should do a little more of that, in regards to this current girlfriend. Thank you both!

whimsyofemily Being in a relationship is sort of like a long term negotiation. Yes, I would like to do that. I'd prefer not to do that again. One of the best life skills is what I call taking your pulse: you check in with yourself to see what it is that you need. For your relationship to work it must meet both of your needs. There is nothing wrong with or needy about missing someone and wanting to talk to her--it's quite healthy! We're all to some extent afraid of being rejected, you especially because you've usually done the rejecting and think that you really like this girl. Hokie though it may sound, embrace your feelings as part of the journey. Start taking walks or exercising on a regular basis and be sure to meet up with friends to keep the balance in life. Don't be afraid to ask for what you need. If she's not it there are billions of other people in the world. Above all, life is sort of like this grand experiment where as you meet more people, as you date more, you will in find time the right combination. Also bear in mind that even when you've met "the one" communication to check in with each other will be crucial to making things work. The sooner and more effectively you learn to communicate, the better off you will be in every sphere of your life. Good luck!

Travelling Girl What are you fighting about?

Rachel R. There's a fine line between love and hate--but I don't have to tell you that. Sounds like you are in a very frustrating situation. I don't know that she can change her personality--some things may be too ingrained in who she is. I do know that if she can change it has to come from her wanting to. You can't force her to change. If you have a child with her, you'll always be tied to her. So she either has to change or you have to change your attitude and accept her as she is or you'll all just be miserable.

whimsyofemily I'm going to go out on a limb here and suggest that you two are not compatible. If you "feel like you've given her more chances than she deserves," that is a relationship ender in my book. What does she do that pisses you off? Are you two still pissing each other off in the same way or has that evolved over time? Why do you keep taking her back when you're in what sounds like a toxic relationship together? Only you can answer these questions. Consider contacting an attorney if she is pregnant with your child. It is always much better to know your rights, and options before you have a child bouncing around.

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joyhenrry ( joyhenrry@yahoo.com ) hello, It is my pleasure to contact you after viewing your profile at which really interest me to have communication with you I will be very happy if you can write me through my email for easiest communication and to know everything about each other and for us to exchange pictures,here is my email (joyhenrry@yahoo.com) i will be waiting to hear from you soon. Yours Joy.