Travelling Girl Glad you finally saw sense! I would have dumped long before that!

Lover of Love That camel has one strong back

StealthSeductress Ok, so your crushing on this guy? I bet you want to be the one to hold his hand and help in out of the closet? Take it super slooow, He may be a victim of cruelty from his family and church and that influence can have him backed into a huge denial based on shame making him ultra-prudish. He might just be a metro. I say be his best guy friend, take him to the home and garden show, take a cooking class together. Pick him up a lavender apron. When your laughing casually touch him and look in his eyes. Tell him with your eyes. And if the feeling is mutual, you'll know.

joyhenrry ( joyhenrry@yahoo.com ) hello, It is my pleasure to contact you after viewing your profile at which really interest me to have communication with you I will be very happy if you can write me through my email for easiest communication and to know everything about each other and for us to exchange pictures,here is my email (joyhenrry@yahoo.com) i will be waiting to hear from you soon. Yours Joy.

FindYourPlusOne.com Unfortunately, men are wired differently than women. They do not tend to see some things as threatening or hurtful, the was a woman does. If your feelings were hurt, it would be better to go to your friend and ask her why she did it and let her know that it makes you uncomfortable. It is somewhat unfair to punish him for something she did. Have an honest talk with her and tell her that the way they act together concerns you. If she is a good friend, she will back off and apologize. If she is trying to be more than just friends with him, you will know, too. Actions speak louder than words. Your boyfriend may not see your friend as anything but a friend. But if you think he is acting inappropriately, you should let him know. He isn't responsible for someone posting a picture of him on Facebook. He is responsible for how he acts towards this person. If he is flirting, leading her on or making her think there is a chance to be with him - call him out on it. Instincts are a powerful indicator to guide us in the right direction. Pay more attention but try not to accuse him out of fear. Trust your instincts but make sure you have your facts straight. If you think she is a threat - she may be to you but not to him. Start with her first and see how that goes. Good luck with your Plus One!

lostforever Nope. It was something that he did, and he was flirting.

FindYourPlusOne.com Your post stated "While I was on Facebook, a friend of mine posted up a picture of her face with the face of my boyfriend photoshopped onto it. " You never quite stated that he was the one that created the picture. If he was flirting and you are uncomfortable with his behavior, you deserve better. Good luck!

whimsyofemily It sounds like Cassidy is still into Kevin. Arrange to spend some quality time in person together and see what happens. As a woman who was always against long distance relationships (for me) but found herself in one, I can say that some rules are meant to be broken. Is it harder than a close distance relationship? Yes. Is it a little scarier than a close distance relationship? Yes, it's tough when you can't see your significant other frequently. The distance will require you to communicate more openly, it takes more effort to be in a long distance relationship but if you find yourself being reminded of Kevin by little things you're not over him and won't be over him. You two never had a big fight, and you two never had reason to fall out of like with each other. The more you try to exorcise the ghost of your Kevin attraction from your system the harder it will be for you to move on emotionally from him. Try giving Kevin some effort and see what's returned. How does he communicate? What are your life goals? How different are your career goals and why is that a showstopper? What are your values? Different backgrounds mean you come from different points of view on life, but if you two learn to recognize where you're both coming from, check in with yourselves, and communicate through the differences, you can make the relationship work barring you both still want it to be.

Travelling Girl Try something fun like a mobile app for people in long distance relationships! http://mashable.com/2012/03/23/pair/

Jewlz4Prezident OK...from reading what you wrote, here's what it seems like to me - and if it seems incorrect, certainly disregard any of the advice I will offer... To me, you offered a detailed backstory in order to highlight how significant your strong feelings for Current GF are...that usually you feel a little unemotional about the connection, but this time you feel very strongly about the connection, which I think impacts your resolve to figure this problem out and find a solution. With that being said, in the past, you were not very emotionally involved (except 1st long-distance girl), and you mention how sometimes they might consider you their BF, but you did not consider them your GF. What this tells me, is that in this case, the tables have turned and you're feeling kind of vulnerable in a situation you are usually in control of, but at the moment you are a bit at the mercy of your GF's whims (when she wants to text/talk). That in itself is probably causing a lot of underlying discomfort with the whole situation, in addition to the historic pattern of girls quitting you cold-turkey, without explanation. That aside, here is what I would suggest: Consider first, how long this relationship will be long-distance, and if there is any plans in the future for you two to live closer. Based on that answer, assess how long you could tolerate the relationship as it is right now (only months, years?). Then, consider some options of ways to keep in touch and how often would be acceptable for you - think of what you have tried, and what hasn't worked. For example, maybe daytime phone calls are not working, but daytime texts of pictures of cute animals with captions that don't need an immediate response and a scheduled nightly "Goodnight" phone call would work. Or sending quick links for jokes and pictures on facebook would work, and I would really consider trying the App that Travelling Girl suggested. Do a little trial and error and be a little creative. After considering that, I think you should look inward. It seems like you are very sensitive to trying to make sure you are meeting HER needs, which is definitely a positive thing. However, depending on how long things will be long distance and what you figure out to be your tolerance of level of communication...I would then suggest you look within yourself and think "is she meeting MY needs?" At the moment, she is not, since you crave more affectionate and attentive behavior than she is providing. It could just be that the communication methods you are used to are just not working (calling during the day, song suggestions), or it could be that a long-distance relationship just doesn't work between you and this particular woman at this time. Overall, I do not think that you are being ridiculous at all, and that you have a very valid concern. I think you should consider how long this will be long distance, how long you could last with things this way if they don't change, and use trial and error to test a big variety of methods to see if any of them stick. If they don't, consider whether she is meeting your needs as a relationship partner. Good luck!!

Kingfisher Well. I've had two excellent responses in the first day I've been on here, with no contacts to speak of. I'm certainly impressed with this website... and I'm probably going to be an active member around here just to try and give back a little. Travelling Girl, your suggestion (while a bit saccharine sweet for my taste) is certainly a good one... and I'll probably give that a go, honestly. The only minor speedbump is figuring out how to bring it up. It even goes hand-in-hand with what Jewlz was saying (which, by the way, "feeling kind of vulnerable in a situation you are usually in control of" was spot on. I didn't even think about it that way!) and some of her advice and thoughts. It's strange to think that I'm not really considering what I'm needing, at the moment. Perhaps I should do a little more of that, in regards to this current girlfriend. Thank you both!

whimsyofemily Being in a relationship is sort of like a long term negotiation. Yes, I would like to do that. I'd prefer not to do that again. One of the best life skills is what I call taking your pulse: you check in with yourself to see what it is that you need. For your relationship to work it must meet both of your needs. There is nothing wrong with or needy about missing someone and wanting to talk to her--it's quite healthy! We're all to some extent afraid of being rejected, you especially because you've usually done the rejecting and think that you really like this girl. Hokie though it may sound, embrace your feelings as part of the journey. Start taking walks or exercising on a regular basis and be sure to meet up with friends to keep the balance in life. Don't be afraid to ask for what you need. If she's not it there are billions of other people in the world. Above all, life is sort of like this grand experiment where as you meet more people, as you date more, you will in find time the right combination. Also bear in mind that even when you've met "the one" communication to check in with each other will be crucial to making things work. The sooner and more effectively you learn to communicate, the better off you will be in every sphere of your life. Good luck!