Traveling Girl Wow so sorry to hear that. Have you tried talking about it with him? What does he say?

Carmelia Ray Have you ever suspected your husband might be gay? How did you address this in your first year of marriage and do you have any children? Carmelia

lonelywife Trvelling Girl I got tired of talking about it. We'd talk about it for the past few yrs now but nothing has changed. He'll just always tell me that he doesn't really think about it cause he has a lot of work. It really hurt me when he said that. Sometimes I just think to myself I don't really need sex in our relationship and just be content of his love. However, when I'm that point of needing him it hurts me a lot.

lonelywife We don't have children and in our situation I don't think we will have one. I have asked that to myself but I don't even know they answer. Well, in our first year it did not really bother me.

Traveling Girl I totally understand your dilemma and have been in this situation a number of times. And there have been times I've taken the plunge and it hasn't worked out. And the friendship was no more after that. He couldn't get past the rejection and we're like strangers now. But I also have quite a lot of friends who have taken the plunged and are happily married now. You should decide what is more important to you. The chance at a lifelong partner or the certainty of your friendship.

Dreamerella If either of you start developing a crush on the other, that's when things start to get complicated. You guys should definitely talk about the different scenarios that could happen and if you're both okay with the possible outcomes or consequences of your decision, then I say go for it! But it has to be a unanimous decision.

Dreamerella What an interesting post. It seems every stranger we "date" is a potential enemy who has the ability to destroy our heart and break our spirit. I guess that's why with every new heartache, we become more defensive. We build barriers to protect ourselves from falling for people. We tear people apart before giving them a fair chance. Dating is definitely really awkward and I prefer meeting people without any expectations. I like the idea of just getting to know someone as a friend first and see where it goes. Maybe we have to remove our expectations of a "date" and view them more as casual encounters or interactions with people so that everyone feels safe to just be themselves.

Doubtful Dating Diva LOL I would like to see her reaction - just reading it here made me laugh out loud

Realizer There was a time when I was a kid on spring break and I had my arm around a girl. She didn't seem to touch me back and I didn't think she liked me. I said something about it and in a lovely tone she said, "Did you notice I'm not pushing your arm away? " That's kind of what her last communication felt like. She didn't really ask about the orgasmic meditation, but she was very present, very engaged, and that's ultimately what's sexy.

Dreamerella I would be highly amused if I received that e-mail! :) If your relationship continues, I'm sure it'll come up eventually. That's a very memorable thing to say to someone! You've definitely left an impression that's for sure!

StealthSeductress My interpretation of your date is this....Girl and Guy have strong sexual chemistry. Girl felt Guy's intention to get in her pants. Girl plays hard to get with her words, but told Guy she wanted him with her body. Guy knows she really wants to have sex but wont out of fear of being a one night stand. Guy keeps trying. Girl got offended. Guy feels bad and says what Girl wants to hear, hoping she might reconsider sex. Girl goes home confused. Guy goes home with Blue Balls. Once you realize it's just a game, then you can be a player. On a deeper level, so you got an older version of the young douche bags you've been dated? No It really isn't the guys age, or that all guys want sex. It is how you project yourself. It is those deep self thoughts that you are more that sex, but you don't really believe it. Make a list of your great lady qualities and say that is what guys want you for. I guess, if I am blunt...you objectify yourself. All of this talk about this guy being older and still wanting a one night stand just like the guys your age. My guess is you are sending out some signal in your actions and words....A signal something like..."I am afraid guys only want me for sex." Or something fear related. Just remember, you set your value.

Dreamerella I posted an update just for you. :)